HAVING FOUND YOUR IDEAL PARTNER, WHAT NEXT? [SERIES 3]

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(Last Updated On: March 10, 2018)

Now that you know who an ideal partner is, and likely places where one could find an ideal partner; the question that would probably pop out on most minds is, what next?

Perhaps sustaining romantic relationships is a good place to continue.

Being with someone who is your best friend, someone you share a vision with and who encourages you in achieving your dreams, someone whom you share a great sexual life with; is being in a relationship worth sustaining.

Most of us will acknowledge the fact that building and sustaining meaningful relationships are vital to professional success and personal happiness.

Gone are the days when we say ‘love doesn’t cost a thing’, these days being in a wrong relationship can cost you everything, even your life!

I have come to realize that absolutely everyone experiences challenges in relationships, no matter how enlightened.

Relationships can be difficult even when you understand the nuances of human behaviour.

To therefore sustain a healthy relationship with your ideal partner,

  • You’ve got to be friends

Being friends means, liking as well as loving each other. Have mutual respect and trust. Being loyal partners. When you see people who gush about having married their best friends, it is because of a foundation of friendship. It is the best policy when it comes to long-term relationships.

You’ve got to be on the same page, sharing goals and a vision for life.

  • Then, you’ve got to be Passionate

Read, Discuss topics of interest, Debate. Talk about your individual and shared dreams. Exchange ideas. By so doing, you are cultivating an intellectual chemistry.

Tell your partner how you feel, be open and honest, say what your needs are, this is knowing your partner better all the time, you are building an emotional chemistry.

Do not leave out physical chemistry too. Trade text messages, hug, cuddle, touch, kiss, make love. When it comes to sex, be on the same page with your partner.

  • You need clear communication

Express how you feel, what you need in a non-blaming way. Speak mindfully, listen attentively, this is real communication.

When there is a burden to be shared, admit it to your partner what is bothering you. Talk about it. Two good heads are better than one especially in finding solutions.

  • You also need Patience

The great paradox of life is, it lasts a long time and we never know how much longer we have to live.

Moments come when you hate your partner, maybe as a result of a wrong doing, there are also moments you love them so much and feel so scared of losing them one day.

A healthy relationship is one in which both partners hold on to each other, and maintaining individual independence.

A relationship has to be flexible and sustainable to withstand the test of time.

  • Get Help

Lastly, when disagreements come and you cannot fix the relationship yourself, try seeking a counselor, even a therapist who can open the lines of communication for you and your partner.

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