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(Last Updated On: March 3, 2018)

In the last article I wrote about finding your ideal partner, here I want to enumerate places we can actually meet an ideal partner.

As awkward as this may sound, we actually meet someone with chemistry between us at places we least expect.

Worthy of note here is that, meeting that special someone often happens by accident but you can also increase the odds of meeting someone you like by frequenting the right kind of places.

A place you enjoy, where you feel comfortable and safe, solves the problem of what to talk about when you meet that special person.

To get the most of this article, pick just five ideas that you are most excited about. Try them for three weeks and see what worked for you the most.

Now, of course you have to know how to talk to people, have a little fun, exchange contact information and take it from there. But knowing where to go meet an ideal partner can make the whole process of making friends easier for you.

Places like:

  • The Gym

Yes, you read that right, you may come out of every workout session looking like a clammy wet train wreck.

The gym isn’t a place you get to display your glamorous side, but when you are serious about someone you don’t have to look like a swan 24/7.

It is a good way to take care of yourself and meet people.

  • Apartment/Neighbourhood

It is actually not a smart idea to date roommates, but people in your general living area aren’t as risky.

Living in a giant complex, you could meet your ideal partner at a building party.

  • Work

Though office romances can end badly, they can also give birth to lifelong companionship. The workforce and schools are among the top places to find one’s spouse; this is not that surprising to hear.

Being in the same field, chances are you have similar interests or at least understand each other’s work flow.

  • The Plane

Yes, being on a plane sometimes it’s an ideal place you get to meet a potential gentleman [or lovely lady]. The plane is also a symbolic of ‘going places’.

  • Academic Environment

Lots of rewarding relationships come out of the academic environment.

The more difficult part is evolving together and working around each other’s plans after graduation, but if you can push through this, you are probably in it for the long haul, and what wonderful stories you will have to tell years to come.

  • Public Transit

You ideal partner may be on the bus you take home from work. That literally takes no time out of your busy day.

“Being on that Bus, why not kill two birds with one stone?” It may be the kind soul who gives up their seat for a pregnant woman.

  • Street

Not all strangers have good intentions, but if the gesture feels sincere and right, let the chemistry flow.

  • In Traffic

In Nigeria, especially in our cities, it can be frustrating to sit behind the wheel and listen to the car stereo playing songs in gridlock traffic; you never know who might be in the surrounding vehicles.

Often a times people venture out of their cars after a while, and that is how some have chatted with their future beau.

You could experience such in traffic, or seemingly endless bus ride to another city. Be open to possibilities of something amazing happening in a less than ideal or romantic scenario.

  • Online

This might sound too easy. Research say 23% of people who try online dating meet their spouses on one of these sites, so even though the pointless stigma continue to linger, more and more women are walking down the aisle thanks to companies like, Facebook, Badoo, Eskimi, Smiggle mobi, to name a few.

You might be warned about ‘creepers’ on the internet, but I can assure you that the bar scene is plenty seedy, and at least most online daters are willing to court you a little before taking you to bed.

The most important thing is to keep an open mind and not write someone off based on the manner in which you were first acquainted.

The real happiness comes after you’ve met and once you are close to someone, the introduction doesn’t even matter.

  • Places of Worship

Many churches, mosques, temples and other places of worship and spiritual activities have special singles services and events, figuring that they are safe and familiar and spiritual and, with any luck at all, have the potential to increase the wedding business.

The only problem here is, you can’t date lots of folks at the same place of worship, or you will get a bad rep. so either be selective or plan to change congregations should the need arise.

  • Health Clubs/ Sport Teams

These groups have a lot going for them. You are among other people doing essentially the same thing. You see the same familiar group of people all the time.

It is generally safe, it is fun, it is physical and team members always get together afterwards.

  • Markets/Grocery Stores

Buying food in the local market has that comfort, familiarity, and nurturing thing going. It is a usually non-threatening environment.

  • Bars/Pubs

Yes, they can be intimidating. But you can just start talking to someone at the bar, a guy or a girl.

You want to meet a new person at a bar? Go to busy bars where the music is not too loud.

Turn on your confidence and talk to people.

At the bar you get to meet existing friends and meet their friends too. It also gives you a chance to introduce your friends to each other which is very important.

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